Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Porcelain Girl

     It started with a fracture.
     In her little porcelain heart, in her little porcelain body. Not a big deal. A tiny crack that did not affect the use of the body? No worries.
     Most people get it, her mother assured her. You'll be fine, I got one too, her friends told her.
     But little Dighta was not sure. Though still a heart, her heart as a whole was gone and that could never be taken back. Yes it was just a small thing. And if her family had the money, gold could have been filled into the crack and the loss made beautiful. But that was out of the question. She would just have to live with it.
     Considering that some from Porcelain begin with more than imperfect bodies - missing a leg or an arm or having bumps in places - Dighta thought herself lucky. It's only a tiny fracture, she said to herself often.
     And so life went on.
     One winter, as she hurried down the path home one late evening, it started to rain. Icy drops splattered heavily and soaked through her clothes. Hardly able to see, she slipped in the mud and fell. Higher class Porcelains came by and laughed at her from their ponies and carts. She shook her fist at their backs as they disappeared around the bend. Huffing loudly, she got back up and ran home. Reaching home, she clinked her little body in a chair and threw her cloak and outer garments in front of the fire to dry. Whining to her mother about how horrible and mean the people had been, she swirled her soup around in its tin bowl, not noticing the new edge to her fracture. Her mother too only saw the wet exterior and told her to stay inside tomorrow and not catch cold.
     Dighta went out again later that week, still wanting to help with the errands. Bitterly cold, the wind bit into her thin woolen cloak and chilled her body. She ran to make it to the next warm building. Rushing inside, she realized her effort placed her in the blacksmith's barn. The old Porcelain grunted, barely acknowledging her presence. Shivering, she begged him to let her stand closer to the fire.
     He waved her towards the house and growled, "You go in there and stay out of my way girl."
     She reached the house and found no fire lit there. Furious, she called out the foul words that had been used on her several days before by the other Porcelains and punched the flour sack, which had been the closest thing to her. Ice, beginning to form even on the inside of the panes, formed along the fracture that had not dried. Crying out in pain, she looked at her heart and discovered a deep line along its entirety. Shivering in fear as well as cold, she wrapped a piece of burlap around herself to hide it.
     Running outside, she fled for a new place. Nearing a shop where one of her friends lived, she rushed past townspeople into the shop, calling out to her friend. Appearing by the shop's back door, her friend Marhi immediately pulled her into the back room.
     "How could you be out at a time like this," Marhi scolded her. "The rain and ice are bad for us. Let me dry you."
     But when her friend took away the burlap, seeing Dighta's heart beginning to split, she stood back, unable to approach her.
     "Why do you stare?" Dighta demanded. "I know there is something wrong with me! Do you not still love me?"
     Her friend shook her head. "I've always known you to be weak. Now I know you're a fool too. Why would you come to me like this? If I stay near you I will break too."
     And she fled.
     Dighta stumbled after her into the dark, crying. She slipped and fell, again and again, but she kept getting up. Kept moving. She had to or get trampled on by late-night street goers.
     Eventually she came to the home of another friend. She hesitated, afraid. What if he treats her the same? But a faint spark of hope still glimmered in her broken heart. She reached up to knock on the door.
    The storm picked up more forcefully than before. Ice rain, turned into sharp blades, flew sideways with the roaring wind. She screamed, clawing at the handle of the door before being flung back into the street by the relentless wind, toppling over and over, battered every which way. She did not see the door open and light shine out briefly as the storm claimed her for its own.
     The night wore on. No one was out to see the little Porcelain on the street, unconscious and with a shattered heart. No one but the Master.
     The maker of Porcelain and all who live there had come into the town during the storm. No one had seen him in a very long time although he lived just beyond them. He had heard her scream, seen her pain. He came and picked up the tiny body, cradling it in his arms as he turned toward his home.
     When Dighta awoke, she found herself in a soft bed beside a rosy, popping fire pit. "Good morning Little One," the Master said, offering her bread and butter and milk. She glanced at his table, where the pieces of her heart lay before him.
     "Why?" she said quietly, but anger still tainted her voice. "Why did you let me be this way? Why did you let me fall apart? Why am I more fragile than others?"
     He smiled a sad smile, and started to put the pieces back to together. "You're not the only one who was hurt."
     It was then she noticed his wounded arms, a portion of flesh missing in between the bones below his wrists, and other scars across his forehead. And the fresh cuts on his hands from carrying her fragments.
     She hung her head in guilt.
     When he was done with her heart, though it was together again, the entire heart was covered in hairline cracks that showed every which way it had shattered.
     "There are many reasons why I let my children hurt - to teach, to rebuke, to draw them closer to me, but mostly I let things like this occur because I want you to love."
     "That doesn't make any sense," she muttered. "All pain does is make me angry and afraid."
     "That's because you do not understand how you were made," he said gently. "Though you are tempted by fear and anger more so now than ever, I made you to reach out to those also in pain. You now understand others who suffer as you have suffered. Though you may struggle to fight the belief that you are not loved because you are not normal, and you will be rejected time and again, I have made you to love and persevere."
     He took a drop of his blood and let it fall inside her heart. Within, the porcelain turned to flesh, and started to beat, making the cracks on the outside open wider then close and open again with its rhythm.
     "It is good to be vulnerable," the Master said. "Yes, you will be hurt again, but do not lash out in anger or shut out everyone, or even many. I made you, and I made you the way I meant you to be. I made you fragile so you can feel when my heart breaks. With me you will grow and love and guide."
     Placing her new heart in her body, he helped her out of bed. "One day, there will be a new life beyond Porcelain, with no more pain. But while you live this life, use your pain for me. For others. Not to protect yourself, but to help others to heal."
     So saying, he sent her home. Her journey had begun. She carried part of his heart. Although she knew there would be hard times ahead, she could not look back. Porcelain was waiting for his heart. For him.

When You Have a Mind Like Mine (a poem about mental disorder)

     Before I share this poem, please be aware that it is the view of one person; not everyone who suffers from functional mental disorder (neurosis/neuroticism) is the same way or has the same difficulties. However, this is indeed something that people suffer from and should not be brushed aside nor taken for granted. This piece is intended to be thought-provoking and bring to light a hidden part of this particular human being.


When You Have a Mind Like Mine,
a poem by a person with functional mental disorder


My brain is different.
I'm wired a little weird.
Most days I'm just like you.
I live life, go through normal things.
I'm happy, I get hurt, I get up again,
I freak out, I get stressed, I go to work,
I do my job, I hang out with friends, I laugh,
I live.
Most days, I'm just another person.
But every now and then, I'm not.
The struggle becomes harder, and I can barely function.
Dignity and social capability go out the window.
Emotional control and mental stability are lost.
In those moments I am in agony.
All I want is to be normal again.
Instead of thinking about a test score or a work project,
I pace in my bedroom, muttering nonsense.
Rather than planning a hangout or spending time on a hobby,
I'm laying on the floor, screaming silent screams.
I am broken, fluctuating on extremes -
euphoria to depression, bliss to raw anger.
Clawed hands grasp at my mind
and it takes everything within me to cling to God alone who hears me scream.
Those moments come and go.
I don't let other people see me or hear me.
I deny it of myself.
"It's not a part of my life, it's not who I am."
My parents told me I was fine.
I would grow out of it.
I was just being a drama queen,
seeking attention by being overly emotional.
"Stop crying, there's no need to cry about this and that."
I believed them.
My friends who knew told me I was delusional.
I agreed with them.
I told myself it was all in my head.
But that's just it.
It's my head that's "wrong."
My neurosis is real.
But I try to be normal, just so you don't see.
I just want to be an adult.
But sometimes it takes all my strength just to be "human."
Sometimes it's all I can do to smile at you,
to walk, to be around others, to talk, to listen.
Sometimes I wear a mask, pretending to be happy, pretending to be okay.
Other times I force myself to deny it,
to enjoy the moment of living at work or with friends just to get by,
only to go home to hours of pain and numbness.
I don't want sympathy, I don't want pity.
I don't want people to worry about me.
I'm speaking now to say that I'm an overcomer.
That I am strong.
I live in a beautiful world and I am beautiful too.
Let me show you just how much God has done in my life.
My strength comes from God.
You think you're having a hard time,
worried about the future, about relationships,
and life from the little to the big things?
How about adding functioning to that?
Don't you dare look down on me,
because my development and growth is slow,
and I have a moment of difficulty giving you extra grace when you fall short.
I don't mean to.
I have no intention on being harsh,
especially seeing as how I have no grounds to do so.
I treat you as I treat myself
and my life is just as difficult as yours
even when it doesn't seem that way to you on the outside.
Just because my battles are unseen
does not mean they are nonexistent.
Sometimes all I can do is breathe.
This is my untold story.
Please understand this does not make me stronger than you,
more special than you, nor any less than you.
We all have our battles.
I know your days are hard too.
So why can we not walk together?
Support each other when we struggle?
I cannot push people away when they lean on me,
please do not push me away when I lean on you.
I have been rejected, hurt, left behind so many times.
Please, please, please do not do the same.
Help me reach out to the hurting, to those rejected and left behind.
Let's be different.
When you have a mind like mine,
sometimes you just got to live.
When you have a heart like mine,
all you see are others trying to live.
Will you not reach out with me?

Let Me Linger (a poem)

Let me linger here.
Let me stay a little longer.
I feel the world spinning on, time passing like an afternoon breeze.
Let me memorize you, searing the moment into my mind.
Altogether too soon, you'll be gone from me.
What is fresh now will dim so quickly,
once this time has passed.
Let me linger here.
Let me touch your face, you heart, one last time.
I let you in, I let you change a part of my life,
Your voice impacts me still.
You inspire me and torment me to grow.
But it's time you left, I cannot keep you here.
Time withers beyond my grasp.
Were you mine I could beg you to stay with me.
But the spark you shared with me is not meant for me alone.
How I wish I could be safe, always,
here, with you by my side.
Let me linger where you are.
Let me breathe in your presence.
I see everything you've done for me, for others.
I've watched you in admiration as you selflessly gave.
Do you not see how precious you are?
Why I name you of so much worth?
Your uniqueness draws me to you.
Your gentleness combined with strength sets you apart.
What I would give to ensure you remain,
keeping you close enough to hold.
But even now you're not that near.
You came close enough to touch me,
yet when I reach out to pull you in, you're far away.
Comet among the stars, here for a time, then gone.
If I cannot make you stay, though I wish you would stay,
I ought to muster the courage to ask you to return.
But before you leave,
Let me linger.
Feel your touch once again,
Hear your music one last time.
I will not cling to you,
I will not keep you beside me,
I will not demand your loyalty only to me,
only let me see your face once more.
Let me linger,
in joy, in peace.
Let me smile,
laugh, dance.
One more time.
I shall try to only let the tears come
once you're gone from view.
But please, don't walk away so fast.
Don't push me away.
Don't keep me at a distance.
Don't hurt me like others have before.
You have proven yourself different, better.
You rely on the God I love.
That is why I hold you so precious.
I have seen the Spirit guide you.
The Spirit that I pursue.
A tiny portion, like a puzzle piece, within you,
I have seen it, and I have loved it.
Yet your time here is drawing to a close.
Go, show the world what I have seen in you.
But I am human, and remain wanting more.
So I ask for a little bit more for myself before the end.
Please, while you're here,
let me linger.

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

The Sighs of A Cheshire

I would have you hear my voice,
I would not have you pity that I am mute.
I want you to know my story,
please still listen while I struggle to communicate.
I would have you share your past,
and not turn away from my deafness.
I would have you know my mind,
please don't try to fix my insanity.
I would have you show your feelings,
and not have you be offended by mine.
Come near, look behind my smile.
Why do you let me rave,
only to walk away?
Oh but such are humans,
paradoxical in nature.
We seek likeness, not difference.
We desire continuity,
but forget our own missteps.
We judge, misguide, struggle.
We hide, we lie, we lash out.
Masquerade.
Moving in the dance.
I tire of it.
I am weary of wearing a mask.
But a portion of myself is dark indeed.
An operatic Phantom sings a lullaby.
Not all of me is darkness,
the spark of faith that keeps me alight, alive, remains.
But time and again my mind has betrayed me.
The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.
I am so weak.
Frail, and a fool.
Quite mad, in need of assurance, support.
I cannot walk this path alone.
But I am frightened. So frightened.
I have been hurt before, by those I trusted deeply.
I shared my mind, showed my madness,
and they turned from me,
told me they never cared to begin with.
I think I might be better off in Wonderland.
But that is not where I am meant to be.
I cannot stay for long in this insanity.
I've been here far too long.
But I see no end, just more tunnel.
Someone pull me from the Matrix,
show me how to live without a spoon.
No time-turner could save me from myself,
no magic spell could free me from my own cage.
Do you not see it?
The pain behind my smile?
The scars under the paint?
Do you not hear it?
The screams behind my laughter?
The sobs beneath the flirting?
Music box, wound too tight.
Porcelain doll, with a brain of tin.
I've been shattered so many times.
You can see where I've been put back together.
And I'm still wrong.
But still they come to dance.
So I dress myself in pretty paint and lace.
I play the part.
Masquerade.
The fact that anybody would choose me when I show myself
is beyond my grasp.
So I don't let them see.
Until it's too late.
And then I shatter once more.
One alone has picked up my pieces.
One alone has believed in the Mad Hatter's daughter.
One alone took my hand.
But because I cannot see Him,
cannot feel Him,
sometimes I doubt,
and wonder if I'm just simply crazy.
That what comes to me is all in my head,
and there are no visions from Him,
directions from Him,
empathy towards His children.
Or is it because I am insane that I can have these things?
I am not sure.
But still the spark of faith remains.
He kept me alive when I had nothing left.
So be it insanity, or be it a God who loves me,
I will cling to hope.
I hold onto the Lord,
even when I feel invisible,
even when I wander away,
even when I am betrayed.
The wisdom of God seems foolish to Mankind.
But I am a fool indeed.
God is my anchor.
Despite whatever you make think or feel about me,
I know that it is my madness that keeps me needing God before all else.